Wait, I thought this thread was about the Swear Agenda which we Swearers are advancing by pressuring Anthy to change the way she raises her kids!
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Drat! Foiled again! I am offended that our brilliant (f******) logic hasn't persuaded you, Anthy!
Actually...I didn't realize, at first, that we were supposed to be talking only about kids. When I came into this thread, some people were already talking about swearing at work, and I thought that we were discussing the appropriateness of profanity in all different areas. So, not only was I not trying to comment on how parents should raise their pre-teen kids...I didn't even realize that that was the only official subject for discussion.
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Oops.
PS Mith, congrats on your hypothetical, perfect children!
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You know, if I could have perfect children, I might consider changing my mind about not having them.
Erm, I just meant, by the time they were 20, I would trust them to make good choices.
I think this is important, though, because this seems to be where parents have a hard time letting go on the other end. When you say, "they can do as they please" at twenty and really mean, "I would trust them to make good choices," those things seem to add up to, "I'm fine with them doing as they please as long as they make precisely the choices I approve of." I'm not arguing with you, because neither of us has kids so it's somewhat moot, but I'm using your comments to point out something that a lot of parents seem to do once their kids go off to college, and that I think is a mistake (*prepares for the parents to pounce*
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). Many parents of young adults seem to conflate "S/he isn't making the choice I would prefer" with "S/he clearly lacks the maturity to make her own choices, and I must swoop in to protect him/her from them!" Normally leads to problems in the parent/child relationship, regardless of who is technically "right". I think there needs to come a point where parents...if not trusting in their kids' choices, are just accepting of them. And I don't think that ever happens if parents are hung up on "good choices" as "only the choices I would prefer for them to make." (obviously, parents should still be advisors on the big stuff and point out the foibles and errors of judgments that we are so prone to make - I'm not saying they shouldn't care!)