WampusCat wrote:I don't have a problem with people deleting posts (other than it making me insanely curious, and we know what curiosity does to wampuscats).
I have just one request for everyone:
Please do not engage in mind-reading. If you have decided you don't want to say what you said, fine. Delete. But please do not delete it because the lack of follow-up comments make you think nobody was interested or nobody cared or everyone thinks you're an idiot. Sometimes we're thinking. Or following other links to find out more. Or busy. Or so gobsmacked by your intellect/cleverness/insight/humor that we feel unworthy to respond.
I feel relatively certain that you are unable to read my mind. If I'm mistaken, let me know so I can clean it up.
I thoroughly agree with this. But the mind-reading is going on all over the place; people are assuming passive-aggressive motivations or even dishonesty when the real reason for deleting posts may be quite different.
Imp has already asked to be left out of this, so I'm not sure she's going to respond to the post directed at her. I asked to be left out of this, but I'm still responding, which means I am crazy, I think.
Crazy, yes.
Dishonest?
No. No, speaking as a 12-step Post Deleters Anonymous coin holder, I think I have been
terribly honest on this board. Immodestly honest. I talked about my son's issues in BagEnd, for example, and was chewing my fingernails and pacing the whole time I was waiting for responses to that. A sane person wouldn't BE so honest, so vulnerable. I went out on a limb with that, as I have on so many topics. I'm sure my habits can be labeled with many a negative tag, but
dishonesty really doesn't fit. IMHO.
Perhaps Jewel and Alatar will never completely understand this, because I don't believe either of them to have the same haunting doubts that I do. That level of inherent self-confidence must be a blessing, at times.
Maybe some people
are deleting posts out of some sort of passive-aggressive practice, or inherent dishonesty, although I can't remember thinking that before. However, I don't believe anyone here is
really all that adept at mind-reading, and assigning these motivations might be quite wrong. Which is why we have words, as clumsy as they are. Which is why we have discussions like this. So that we can learn from each other.
So. I am learning! I appreciate both of you sharing how it LOOKS... I can see both of your points, from your side. This has been a really strong experience for me. Even though I have heeded the more gentle encouragement I have received in the past and am (personally) much less prone to post deletion than I used to be, I will try to be more cautious in the future.
"What do you fear, lady?" Aragorn asked.
"A cage," Éowyn said. "To stay behind bars, until use and old age accept them, and all chance of doing great deeds is gone beyond recall or desire.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King