I don't think people here are missing the bigger picture. I think we're well aware of what Trump's election to president reveals about our country, or we're at least beginning to evaluate it to see all that it may mean. However, I don't see the need to separate Trump the person from Trump the bigger picture for our country. Both are frightening, dismaying, and infuriating, all at the same time. And Trump is the embodiment of the sick state of this country. Could it have been someone else? Sure. But, again, I think it's perfectly fine and justifiable to both be afraid of the person and what he or she symbolizes, as well as to speak out against both the person and the deeper implications behind his/her rise to power.
If someone who was better behaved publicly made all the same policy and personnel choices that Trump made, would people still be up in arms?
Yes, some would be. It might not register quite so much with a larger population, though. That is true.
It seems the brutality of Republican policy wasn't enough to really upset people.
Again, yes, it did upset people. It upset me, as a Republican and has pushed me toward the Left. On the other hand, it has also not upset other Republicans and has pushed them to vote for someone like Trump. I hear it from some of the people I work with. They love how brash he is, how outspoken, how unabashed and unafraid to speak his mind. They like his "policies" and his promises. It's quite dismaying to me to hear this.
I had this conversation last night at my parents' dinner table, and I know that my dad at least voted for Trump. I believe my mom did, too, though she tried to deny it. I looked her dead in the eye and said, "You had a Trump sign in your front yard. If you didn't vote for him, then you are still responsible for his election."